Valentine's Day, Your Way: Creating a Customized Celebration of Self-Love
Designing the Perfect Valentine Date Tailored to Your Unique Preferences and Desires
Valentine's Day is often hailed as the day of romance, where couples express their love through grand gestures and intimate moments. However, amidst the frenzy of heart-shaped chocolates and flower bouquets, there's one relationship that often gets overlooked – the one with ourselves.
Let's flip the script this Valentine's Day and make it all about loving yourself first. You don't need to cancel your date or any celebration you have been planning. But before waiting for someone else to sweep you off your feet, why not take the reins and plan your perfect date? Trust me, it's not as daunting as it sounds. It will be the most empowering and fulfilling Valentine's Day yet.
These are 3 steps to craft your perfect Valentine's Day
1. Pause and Date Yourself
If being alone is a challenge, don't worry; you are not the only one. Modern life constantly pushes our attention outward and fills our days with infinite tasks. Prepare a nice cup of Tea or a drink of your preference, find a quiet and beautiful place, make yourself cozy, and spend 20 minutes thinking about the things you love in life. You can journal or just contemplate what comes to your mind. What do you love about yourself? What are the small, simple things that bring you joy but haven't you done recently? Create a list or even write a letter to remember to spend more time in activities that bring you joy.
2. Practicing Self-Love and extending yourself
No Valentine's Day celebration is complete without a healthy dose of self-love and self-care. Take the time to pamper yourself and indulge in activities that nourish your mind, body, and soul. Whether it's a relaxing bubble bath, a rejuvenating yoga session, or a leisurely stroll in nature, prioritize activities that make you feel good from the inside out. Choosing the suitable activity will energize you and bring you to an elevated vibration; you will feel good, positive, passionate, empowered, and ready to share this with anyone you love, a friend, a partner, a family member…
3. Crafting Your Perfect Date Night
Now, let's talk about planning your perfect Valentine's date. If you decide to do a solo night, tailoring the experience to your preferences and desires is key. Are you a fan of cozy nights? Light candles, watch your favorite movie and indulge in a decadent homemade meal. Prefer to venture out? Treat yourself to a solo adventure – exploring a new neighborhood, visiting an art gallery, or going for a scenic hike. If you are with someone, instead of creating high expectations and waiting for them to guess what you would like to do, be honest and share with your partner or friend what would like to experience together, have an honest conversation and invite them to think together, and craft four hands a perfect night, don't get caught up in traditional must do's, be creative (it won't be difficult if you have done the first 2 steps)
Conclusion: The world around you is a reflection of yourself
Like so many commemorative dates, Valentine's Day symbol that some people love, and some don't. Most of the time, it will reflect past experiences like everything in life. It is an opportunity to celebrate and create your own experience. The more you practice it, the more you will realize that all the experiences we have in life are the sum of the choices we make based on the thoughts we have, independent of whether we are aware or not. You don't need to follow any rules. I love dining out, and for many years, I celebrated Valentine's on a different day because it was crazy to go out for dinner on the actual date (I never stand to be one hour in a line to seat to eat), as I got older I started to do cozy intimate dinners at home…After more than 20 years of marriage, we still surprise each other and celebrate this day. But most importantly, Valentine's Day reminds me to date and love myself; no one can do it for you if you don't do it.
